And I thought boys were bad...

All the dirt of boys, plus the attitude...

Friday, October 26, 2012

Smarty Pants

Man, oh, man, oh, man...CC is one smart kid.  I know this.  The problem is that she thinks she is smarter than her parents, or at least me.  This kid always finds the loopholes to anything and everything I say.  I find myself carefully phrasing what I say so that she can't squeeze through some little crack!

This morning, for instance, we woke up late.  I helped her get her clothes picked out and made her breakfast.  Normal mom stuff.  She was being a little butt, though.  Every little thing that she didn't like was a battle.

I was helping with her clothes and asked what shoes she was going to wear.  She said, "sandals" so I proceed to look around for her sandals while she is putting her dress on.  She says, "They're right behind you."  Still, I don't see them.  "Ugh." she says and picks up her Hello Kitty slip on flats.  "These!"  Um, not sandals.  I tell her this and she responds with, "Well, that's what I call them."  O...K...and a "watch your tone" from me.

She forgot her lunchbox at school yesterday so I put her lunch in a plastic bag.  She doesn't like plastic bags and thinks she should be able to take an extra lunchbox to school.  No, I don't agree and well, I make the rules.  I'm not sending her with something else to forget.

She wants to have toast every morning.  Well, no.  We got up late so we don't have time for that.  How about some oatmeal?  She doesn't like that but deals with it, eventually.

This is all trivial stuff, though.  I mean, this is all because she woke up late.  Everything is a battle when you don't have time for battles.  lol

What got me was when I was needing to ask what kind of oatmeal she wanted.  I said, "Can you come here?"

No answer.

No response at all.

I walked out of the kitchen and said, "Excuse me, I said come here."

She says, "No, you asked and I don't want to go."

Oh.  Ok.  No more asking then.  I explained that I didn't ask because she had a choice, I asked because it is a nicer way of telling her to do something.  But that's ok.  I don't need to ask anymore.

Monday, October 22, 2012

Tween Behavior

I was perusing the interwebs this morning and came across a pretty complete article on parenting tweens.

I found the article to be very helpful for me.  I do most of the stuff in it already, but it was nice to see that I am not the only parent that goes through these kinds of issues with her tween.  I mean, I KNOW I'm not the only one who has issues with her tween being disrespectful and rude.  I have a friend whose son is also a tween and she goes through the same stuff.  It's just nice to see that there are enough people going through it that there is an article about it.

Miss A is a really good kid...most of the time.  The issue is that her crappy behavior is getting a bit worse.  I mean, it used to be that when she got upset she would stomp on the floor or something.  Now, she snaps at the person she is upset with(or who is near her when she gets upset).'s just so frustrating!  I mean, this is not the way that I have raised her to act, and yet....

Anyway,  if ou are a parent of a tween, or know one, you should really check out this article.

7 Ways To Fix Rude Tween Behavior

Friday, October 19, 2012

Visit From Nana!

Our decision to move to Texas was the perfect decision for our family.  We have had no regrets since moving here and absolutely love our lives!  That being said, there is one thing that I know my girls are missing out on.

When we lived in California we were able to see different family on a regular basis.  My girls got to see my mom and Hubby's mom almost weekly.  About a year before we moved, Hubby's mom moved out of state.  this was really hard on our girls.  My mom was already living about an hour and a half away from us, but we still managed to get together at least twice a month.

Since moving to Texas, we have tried to keep up with phone calls and online video chats, but life is very busy and we don't get to do those things as much as I'd like.

This past weekend, Hubby's mom came to visit!  It was great!  The girls got to see her and spend real time with her.  We all spent time together and she even took the girls to the zoo!  The girls had an absolutely fantastic time with their Nana this weekend!!

Saying goodbye was much less dramatic than it has been in the past when people have come to visit.  Maybe it was because we are hoping and planning to go visit Nana in a couple/few months.  Whatever the case, I can see that my girls had a blast with their Nana and, though they were sad to see her go, they know that it's not forever.

Special thanks to Nana for coming to visit!!!!!!!!!

Monday, October 15, 2012

Things To Work On

A friend shared an article/blog post with me this week.  I thought it would be nice to share it with you.  It's called, "10 Great Ways to Be An Unhappy Mom."

I have to admit that I don't usually like articles like this because, well, I don't typically agree with the author.  This one, though, is spot on.  I also have to admit that I love the sarcastic title.  =)

Number 1 is something I definitely need to work on. I am still trying to get it through my head that I don't have to have it all now.  I am a pretty motivated person and it's hard for me to accept that sometimes things just need to wait.

Number 9 seems to have taken care of itself for me.  I mean, I used to think about what it would be like when my girls got older and how much easier it would be when they could wipe their own butts or really clean up after themselves.  Now, with one child on the verge of teenager-hood-dom, and the other one pretending she is, I am treasuring every moment I have before things really get out of control...

Number 10 is me all over...I am always busy.  I mean, when someone asks me I usually get out an "I'm good" before the "just really busy" slips out, but most of the time I need to remember to relax.  My hubby reminds me of this almost daily.

Which of these are challenges for you?  Have you overcome any of the ones I am working on?  How did you do it?

Friday, October 12, 2012

Drawing The Line

Deciding when to let your children fail and suffer their own consequences is hard. 

I am making that decision with Miss A right now.  We have had just over six weeks of school this year and she has forgotten things, either at home or at school, six times.  I have saved her little butt every time.  Including this morning.  Today she forgot her lunch...again.  She has forgotten her binder at school and at home several times.  Once I took her to get it because she needed it for homework.

I can't, in good conscience, keep saving her like that.  I am going to start working soon and I won't be able to bring it to her anymore.  I have always used that as the reason to bring her the things she forgets.  You know, the whole, "Well, I'm home and we live right near the school..." but I just can't anymore.  She knows she has me to bring her the things she forgets, so why bother to remember?

At this point, I have to draw the line.  She needs to learn some personal responsibility.  She needs to learn how to be prepared for her day, on her own. 

This is hard for me.  I don't want her to have consequences for forgetting things.  I don't want her to fail an assignment because she forgot her binder at home, but how will she ever learn if she never has to go through the consequences?

The good news is that the school will provide a lunch (not a yummy one, but a lunch) if she doesn't have hers.  I verified that this morning.  Maybe eating food she doesn't like will do it.

Actually, if I'm being honest, my real hope is that the statement that I will no longer be bringing her the things she forgets will incite some kind of responsibility.  I'm hoping that she will not want to find out what happens.

Fingers crossed...she will probably end up forgetting something and I will have to stick by this commitment.  It'll be hard, but it has to be done.

What do you think?  Do you take things to your kid when they forget them at home?  Have you drawn the line I'm drawing?  How did it work out for you?

Monday, October 8, 2012

A Birthday Letter

Dear CC,

You're seven now.  I want to take this time to tell you that you are an amazing child.  I know I tell you every day that you are special and precious to me, but I'm telling you again now because it's true.  I want you to always know that I am grateful to have you in my life.

You have grown so much this year.  You are in the second grade now!  I know you were worried about starting the second grade because you thought it would be so much harder than the first.  I told you you could do it, but I'm not sure you believed me.  I hope you see now that yo are doing it.  You are doing it well!

We have had some struggles this year, you and I.  You have had a hard time accepting the word 'no,' but you have grown through that.  You have made me so proud this year.  You have taken the things that your daddy and I have taught you and stretched them into new ideas that we never even thought of.  Your mind is so powerful.  I hope you know that.

You are smart and beautiful and talented.  You are an amazing student and a wonderful cheerleader.  You are an awesome little sister to Miss A and the best youngest daughter I could ever hope for.

I love you.

Happy birthday!!


Friday, October 5, 2012

A Poem

This is a little something I wrote this week.  Hope you like it.

Each day I'm amazed,
Humbled by the view before me,
Constantly changing,
Ever beautiful,
The sky is so much bigger here,
Whether I feel too important,
Or insignificant,
This sight reminds me of my place,
I am a person,
On the Earth,
Under the vast and awesome sky

By Kristen 10/01/12

Monday, October 1, 2012

Important Lessons: Hard To Teach

This past Saturday morning presented an opportunity to teach a very important life lesson to CC.  She had a football game she needed to be cheering at, but it was early and an hour away, AND it was raining.  Waking this child up at 7am was no fun.

She started with simply refusing to get up and proceeded to throw a gigantic fit for the next hour while I forced her to get ready.  We had battles over putting on her uniform, putting on socks, finding and wearing the correct pair of spanx, breakfast, hair, and plenty in the middle.

At one point I asked why in the world she was being so obstinate.  Her response?  "How can I be that?  I don't even know what it is!"  To which I replied, "Well, you're doing it perfectly."

Yes, I understand she did not want to get up early on a Saturday morning and drive an hour to a game where she would be standing in the rain for up to 2 hours. 

Newsflash: I didn't want to be doing it either. 

Reality: We both made a commitment to the team and it's important to show up anyway.

This is the lesson:  When you make a commitment, you show up.  No matter how uncomfortable.  No matter how much you don't want to.  You show up and you do it with a good attitude.

Now, after we were ready and literally picking up our stuff to walk out the door, I received an email saying that the game was cancelled due to field conditions.  Awesome.  No biggie.  The point is that she was required to show up, no matter what, until she wasn't required to show up anymore.