And I thought boys were bad...

All the dirt of boys, plus the attitude...

Friday, April 26, 2013

Revelation

I haven't written much about my girls lately.  A lot of that is because I have been so overwhelmed with parenting them lately.  I mean, having an 11 year old is a lot harder than I ever thought it would be.  I haven't wanted to air her dirty laundry, per se, because she is getting older and a lot of her friends are on the internet.  Now, I have no idea whether or not any of them would ever come across this blog, but I guess that's the point.  I have no idea.  Anything could happen and I don't want to put anything out there that could make these next years any more difficult than they already will be simply because she is going to be a teenager.

I will say this:

I was talking to a friend at work about all the issues I was having with my eldest.  I was saying how hard it is to parent her because one minute she is coming home with issues at school and being rude around the house, and the next she is being honest at the expense of what she really wants.  I was telling my friend how freaking confusing it is to parent her because I never know who she will be next.

Then my friend responded with the most profound, relevant, and valid thing she could say.

I said: "I'm so confused!"

She said: "So is she."

Wow.  Just like that I stopped.  It all made sense.  If I think I am confused by how she is acting...if I think I am confused by the flip flopping that has been happening, how confused must she be?

She is the one who is trying to figure out who she is.  She is the one trying to reconcile her friends with her parents and herself.  She must be so confused!!

So now I am trying to remember that in everything I do.  I am trying to remember that with every problem we face.  She is even more confused than I am and we need to be on the same side so that we can help each other through this.

Yes, there will still be consequences, but they can be done from a place of understanding.

Anyway, what a wise friend.  I'm pretty lucky I had someone to point that out to me.

Friday, April 12, 2013

I Think I Lost My Girl Card

So, as we all know baseball season has started again.  Now, most years this would be the time of the year where I would sigh and come to grips with my television being constantly tuned to the crack and cheer of whatever game was going to be on.  This year is a little different, though.

I think it all started when my kids started cheering for football.  Bare with me...I promise it makes sense.  See, I never cared about any sports at all.  Really, they were like the black plague as far as I was concerned.  Sports were these horrible things that came in and took over my house for months on end...and my hubby isn't even as bad as most men.

But when my kids stared cheering, and I was team mom, I had to learn how football worked.  What the rules were.  When to have them do the defense cheer and when to do the for offense.

That was the in.

Last baseball season, I didn't even mind the games on all the time.  I wasn't really into it, but I asked questions and learned more about how it worked.

Then last football season happened.  BOTH my girls did cheer and guess what?  Now that I had learned about the game from the little one's cheer squad, watching the bigger one's games was actually fun.  I found myself cheering and booing along with the rest of our small central Texas town.  Along with all this of course came me watching and enjoying regular season and post season professional football and even college games.

Now for the part where I lost my Girl Card.  ((Deep breath))  I signed up for my hubby's fantasy baseball team.  I won the first week and am super stoked!

Yep.  My Girl Card has been revoked.  Don't care.  I'm having fun!

Friday, April 5, 2013

Family Vacation In The Works

As you may have noticed, I did not post anything on Monday.  This is because school started again for me.  I am taking 2 accelerated criminal justice courses and the workload is WAY more than I thought it would be.  Seriously, it's like a full time class load.

I am going to be only posting on Fridays until the end of the semester.  It's only 8 weeks and I'm pretty sure this is week 2.

On to the cool stuff, though!!

We are planning a family vacation!!  I mean, we have gone down to the coast for a few days before and we went to Utah to visit my MIL for Christmas one year, but this is different.  See, this is the first time we will be buying our OWN plane tickets!  Man, let me tell you.  Plane tickets for 4 people are not cheap, but it will be worth it.

Wanna know where we are going?

CALIFORNIA!!!

We are going to visit family and friends in Cali!  It's going to be pretty freaking awesome.  I mean, I absolutely love where I live.  I say that enough that there should be no doubt.  I literally exhaled when we got here.  It was like I had been holding my breath my whole life and I was finally able to just let it go.  None of that means I don't have people I miss, though.

So we are going to go visit them!!  Yay!!!